In the 30-some-odd hours I've been engaged, the number of thoughts that have gone through my head have been astonishing. Who knew there was so much to think about? Even having planned weddings before, it is different when it is happening to you.
I thought about how easily one can get overwhelmed, and how it will take a conscious effort to step back sometimes, and breathe, and focus on the reason for the marriage, and not the dress, the ceremony, or the drunk uncle who might show up at the reception.
So I sat down and made a list of things to remember during this beautiful process. Because that's what it should be: Beautiful. And fun. And sparkly. (Lots of sparkly.)
Feel free to steal this list if you are engaged, irritated, overwhelmed, and tired.
- 1. Don't put the wedding above your husband-to-be.
- 2. This is you and your fiance's wedding. Not anyone else's.
- 3. Just smile and nod with unsolicited advice. And maybe mentally prepare dinner while you listen to the ramblings.
- 4. Don't mentally plan dinner if someone who has been married for 40 years is giving you advice.
- 5. Have non-wedding conversations.
- 6. Include your Mister in the decisions. Don't assume he doesn't care.
- 7. Take the planning one thing at a time.(I have written down 1-2 things to plan/do each weekend. At least one weekend a month I take "off.")
- 8. Your bridesmaids are there to HELP you. USE them.
- 9. Sometimes, the $50 thing you were going to DIY is just worth the 50 bucks. Put the glue gun away. Go to sleep.
- 10. Thank God for that sweet man you get to spend the rest of your life with.
Like I said, I've only been engaged for 30 hours. I am not stressed by any stretch of the imagination, but when I can feel my eye start to twitch, and a headache coming on, thinking about this list will help keep me in check.
For those of you who have been through this process, what advice do you have?
Maybe I'll ruffle a few girl-feathers....but I have to be honest here.
I don't believe you when you say you don't like it when your boyfriend or husband or whoever buys you flowers.
Are you REALLY saying you will roll your eyes in disgust when your significant other surprises you with a lovely bouquet?
Are you really saying that it annoys you that he was thinking about you, and he decided to buy you some romantic roses?
REALLY?!?!
I get it. Not all girls are "girly girls"...but you can't possibly be appalled by flowers.
I can see rare exceptions. Let's say your family is starving and living in a cardboard box on the side of the road. If your man comes to the box with some flowers from Kroger, I'd be pissed, too. "Hey man, you could have spent that $12.00 on, I don't know...FOOD."
But for the most part, shouldn't you be grateful that he thought about you?
I mean...they're FLOWERS. He's not bringing you something gross. Flowers are pretty, and are a general expression of love.
I also have to note, that I think some girls say that, because their dudes DON'T get them flowers. NOT EVEN FOR VALENTINES DAY! (a travesty!)
So fellas...maybe you should step up your game a little bit here, and stop making your girl bitter.
So, girls, tell me what you think? Are you a flower lover? A flower hater? Why?
Guys, do you buy your girl flowers? Why or why not?
Answer in the comments below!
